Went to the Beverly Center to check out the Lucky Box. It’s a mystery box machine where you can spend money to get graded cards or signed memorabilia/jerseys. Thought maybe it wouldn’t be to pricey…..

Published December 14, 2025 | By Alyx E, Founder of Collectors MD

Cognitive dissonance is the quiet tension that forms when what we believe about ourselves doesn’t match what we’re actually doing. In our collecting journeys, it often shows up disguised as “growth”, “discipline”, or “being more intentional”—even while the spending stays the same or silently increases. We tell ourselves the story that we’ve changed, while our behavior tells a different one.

Many collectors reach a moment where they tell themselves, “I’m done chasing”. No more random breaks. No more ripping for the rush. Instead, the plan becomes buying fewer cards—better cards. Five cards a month. One grail at a time. One hobby box instead of an entire case. On paper, that sounds like intention. But intention without honesty quickly turns into a loophole.

Cognitive dissonance appears when the budget never actually shrinks—only the justification changes. The $300 spent across impulsive breaks becomes a $300 single. The weekly personals turn into one high-end purchase that feels responsible because it’s framed as long-term, rare, or investment-minded. The behavior hasn’t changed. Only the narrative has.

This is where collecting and gambling can subtly overlap. Gambling doesn’t just live in casinos or sports games—it lives in rationalization. It lives in the belief that this version of spending is different, smarter, safer. That we’re no longer chasing hits, even as our nervous system still lights up with anticipation, scarcity, and validation. The dopamine isn’t gone—it’s just wearing a suit instead of a hoodie.

When the language changes faster than the behavior, the mind fills the gap with justification—and the cycle continues to perpetuate.

Cognitive dissonance thrives when we confuse restraint with control. Buying less often doesn’t necessarily mean spending less. Buying “better” doesn’t automatically mean buying within our means. And calling something intentional doesn’t make it so if the outcome—financial stress, secrecy, regret—remains unchanged.

True intentional collecting isn’t about the type of purchase. It’s about alignment. Alignment between values and actions. Between goals and limits. Between what we say we want—and what our bank account, relationships, and mental health can actually support.

If you say you’re only buying five cards a month, but each one now costs more than your old habits combined, it’s worth asking a hard question—not with shame, but with clarity. Am I changing my behavior—or just upgrading my excuse?

The goal isn’t perfection. It’s awareness. Because once the dissonance is named, it loses its power. And when intention becomes something you can measure, not just something you can say, collecting starts to feel lighter again. Quieter. More honest.

That’s where real change begins—not when the hobby looks different on the outside, but when it finally feels different on the inside.

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I think that eBay should make auctions only available to users with over 200 transactions. BIN and Best offer only until then. I’m tired of these weird accounts that begin and end with numbers as their user names and have (1) transaction history. Probstein is that you 🧐 haha jk, this was a PSA auction as well but I’ve always been curious if these were people actually shilling or possibly some sort of bot coded to shill specific listing types. Yes I know I sound paranoid, there has already been some shady dealings across the hobby and wanted to see what you guys and girls thought here on Mantel