Published February 15, 2026 | By Alyx E, Founder of Collectors MD

During the throes of active addiction, I told myself I was always playing to win. That was the story I clung to. But looking back honestly, I can see something much darker underneath it. I wasn’t just chasing wins. I was chasing the chaos that came from being down. Down bad. Getting myself into a massive hole created an overwhelming sense of urgency, and that urgency delivered a rush that a clean win never could.

There was something sadistically intoxicating about being deeply buried. Being down meant I had a mission. It meant adrenaline. It meant intensity. It meant feeling something. Sitting down and winning right away felt flat by comparison. Subconsciously, I think I was playing to lose so I could justify the adrenaline-filled chase that followed. The dopamine didn’t come from winning. It came from fighting my way back to even.

Once I started losing, walking away was never an option for me. I’d keep going. I’d double down. I’d open multiple seats. I’d split hands. I’d fight relentlessly to come back. The goal became singular: get back to even or lose it all. That’s what made it so dangerous. That’s what made it so toxic. It wasn’t about money anymore. It was about relief.

The most addictive part of it all wasn’t the win, it was the split second where everything felt like it could be undone if I just stayed in long enough.

That moment in a game like blackjack captures the entire trap with brutal clarity. Sitting there with a massive wager on the table, multiple splits, double downs stacked, heart racing as the dealer turns over the next card. That pause. That suspended breath. The rush was euphoric. And when it hit, it felt like oxygen. But when it didn’t, the sickness that followed wasn’t disappointment. It was panic. And that panic demanded the cycle continue.

That same pattern would show up in my collecting journey too. Breaks. Repacks. Sealed wax. Late nights. Session after session. The deeper I got, the harder it became to “come back”. The odds were always exponentially worse with sports cards. Losses compounded slowly, and even “wins” weren’t liquid, requiring a delayed and uncertain path back to cash. But the structure was familiar. The chase felt the same. Whether it was playing cards on a felt table or sports cards on a break mat, the cycle kept feeding itself.

In hindsight, the truth I can’t ignore is this: I wasn’t addicted to winning – or even money for that matter. I was addicted to the intensity of fighting back from the depths of desperation. The pressure. The urgency. The illusion that one more hand or one more hit could make it all okay. That’s the trap. That’s the cycle. And once you see it for what it truly is, you can finally step out of it.

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Published February 13, 2026 | By Dayae Kim, LMFT, Collectors MD Referral Network

For many high-functioning people, slowing down doesn’t feel like an option. Their success, capability, and identity have been built on constantly going on ambition, discipline, and pushing through. For a lot of my high-achieving clients, slowing down can feel like laziness, a loss of momentum, or even giving up. If you’ve built your life around productivity and endurance, the idea that rest could improve performance can sound counterintuitive or even irresponsible.

But here’s what we forget: performance slowdowns aren’t caused by a lack of ambition. They’re caused by chronic nervous system activation.

When you’re always in a “go, go, go” state, your system isn’t optimized for clarity, creativity, or sustained drive. It’s operating to survive.

Performance Isn’t Just Mental, It’s Physiological

We tend to think of performance as a mindset issue; motivation, discipline, focus – but performance is deeply tied to your autonomic nervous system, which regulates stress, attention, energy, and emotional reactivity.

When your nervous system is consistently stuck in fight-or-flight: Focus wavers. Creativity drops. Decision-making becomes reactive. Recovery takes longer. Small stressors feel overwhelming.

You can still push through and perform, but it requires more effort and energy, which often leads to exhaustion and a growing sense of feeling incapable or depleted. Over time, this can show up as burnout, increased anxiety, irritability or emotional numbness, difficulty accessing joy or rest, and a sense of constantly being “on”.

At this point, trying to improve performance by doing more is like pressing the gas pedal while stuck in mud. What’s actually needed isn’t more effort, it’s learning how to restore and regulate so your system can refill its tank.

How to Slow Down and Find Rest

Many of my clients are busy, driven, and in demanding roles; traditional “self-care” advice often feels unrealistic or out of touch. Slowing down doesn’t mean stopping your life. It means making small, intentional shifts that allow your nervous system to reset.

Here are some simple, obtainable ways to start: Pause for 30 seconds to one minute between tasks to interrupt stress stacking and reset your system. Take intentional breaths throughout the day; if it helps, set a reminder to prompt you. Choose one moment each day to focus on a single task without multitasking. Stretch briefly between tasks to release accumulated tension. Limit your daily to-do list to three to five realistic priorities. In the evening, downshift intentionally by dimming lights, softening stimulation, and limiting high-stress conversations. These aren’t about doing less forever. They’re about creating enough regulation to keep going without burning out.

Conclusion

You deserve rest. And rest doesn’t mean sacrificing performance or capability. When your nervous system is regulated, focus is more sustained, uncertainty is more tolerable, decisions under pressure become clearer, and reactivity in relationships and leadership roles decreases.

If you’re struggling to slow down without feeling like you’re falling behind, therapy can help you learn how to regulate your nervous system in a way that supports both well-being and high performance.

This same dynamic shows up powerfully in collecting and recovery. When the nervous system is dysregulated, urges intensify, decision-making narrows, and the pull toward impulsive spending, ripping, or gambling feels urgent rather than optional. Regulation doesn’t remove desire, it restores choice. Slowing the body down creates the space to respond instead of react, to collect with intention instead of compulsion, and to build a recovery that supports clarity, stability, and long-term sustainability rather than burnout disguised as momentum.

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Published February 09, 2026 | By Alyx E, Founder of Collectors MD

There’s a subtle feeling of guilt that shows up for a lot of people in recovery. You look around at the news, the chaos, the suffering, the uncertainty, and a thought creeps in: who am I to struggle with this? Compared to everything else happening, my problem feels small. Trivial. Like a so-called “first-world problem" that doesn’t deserve attention.

But pain doesn’t work on a global leaderboard. Struggle isn’t invalid just because someone else is struggling differently. Your nervous system doesn’t check headlines before reacting. Compulsion doesn’t pause out of respect for world events. If anything, uncertainty and stress tend to make these patterns louder, not quieter.

There’s also a difference between perspective and dismissal. Perspective helps us stay grounded. Dismissal teaches us to minimize, suppress, and push through things that actually need care. Telling yourself your addiction doesn’t matter because the world is on fire doesn’t make it go away. It just delays the moment you have to face it.

Strength isn’t built by minimizing pain. It’s built by facing it honestly.

Recovery isn’t selfish. It’s stabilizing. It’s choosing to reduce harm in at least one corner of a chaotic world. And that matters more than we give it credit for. You don’t have to catastrophize your struggle to justify addressing it. You also don’t have to apologize for wanting to feel better.

Taking your healing seriously doesn’t mean you lack empathy for the world. It doesn’t mean you’re unaware of suffering, detached from reality, or turning inward while everything else burns. It means you recognize a simple truth: you can’t carry the weight of the entire world, but you can take responsibility for the part of it that lives inside you.

Healing is one of the few places where your effort actually changes the outcome. When you choose to stabilize yourself, reduce harm, and stay honest about what you’re dealing with, you’re not opting out of compassion, you’re practicing it in a form that’s real and sustainable. Doing what’s within your control isn’t indifference. It’s how care survives in an overwhelming world.

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Collecting didn’t start as the problem—it was the doorway. Long before gambling took hold, compulsive collecting and impulsive spending were already shaping the patterns that would later spiral out of control. What looked like passion, nostalgia, and ambition slowly became rationalization, escalation, and silence.

In this episode of Behind The Breaks, host Alyx Effron, Founder of Collectors MD, shares his personal story—from early sneaker and memorabilia collecting, to the escalation into gambling, and eventually to how gambling-adjacent mechanics in modern collecting nearly destroyed his life. Alyx walks through the moments where the hobby stopped being an outlet and started becoming a mirror for deeper compulsions, culminating in addiction, financial collapse, and the reckoning that followed.

This episode explores how systems designed around speed, scarcity, and chase blur the line between collecting and gambling—and how removing the behavior doesn’t always remove the obsession. Alyx unpacks the uncomfortable truth that recovery isn’t just about stopping, but about understanding what the chase was really providing—and how easily that hunger can be redirected when guardrails are missing.

From live blackjack to live breaks, from relapse to recovery, this episode traces the path toward accountability, harm reduction, and Step 12—paying it forward. It’s a conversation about rebuilding with intention, accepting the need for real guardrails, and transforming lived experience into support for others walking the same path.

This episode is for collectors who feel caught between love for the hobby and fear of losing control—and for anyone who’s realized that willpower alone isn’t enough in systems engineered to keep you chasing.

Recovery doesn’t mean walking away forever. It means learning how—or whether—to participate safely, honestly, and with intention.

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Published January 29, 2026 | By Alyx E, Founder of Collectors MD

When collecting or gambling behavior crosses into compulsive territory, the damage is both financial and psychological. Money is lost, and so is its meaning. What used to feel earned slowly becomes hollow. Dollars become clicks. Spending becomes momentum. The connection between effort and outcome weakens until money starts to feel weightless.

This doesn’t happen because people are inherently careless. It happens because the systems they get sucked into are designed to remove friction. Fast transactions. Stored payment methods. Cart reminders. Promotional incentives. Instant gratification. Over time, your brain stops registering money as something finite and starts treating it like a renewable resource that resets with the next paycheck, the next flip, or the next hit.

For many of us, this warped relationship with money runs deeper than the behavior itself. It can be shaped by patterns we learned early in life, reinforced by environments that normalize debt, or fueled by communities that reward risk without acknowledging the fallout. When that foundation is shaky, compulsive spending feels less like a red flag and more like a routine.

Recovery isn’t just about spending less. It’s about slowing down enough to feel what money represents again. When money regains meaning, intention starts to replace impulse.

Relearning the value of a dollar is one of the most overlooked challenges of recovery. Not because it’s about financial literacy, but because it’s about awareness. A dollar isn’t just purchasing power. It represents time spent working. Energy given away. Compromised stability.

When money feels abstract, we lose respect for more than just our finances. We lose touch with our boundaries. We borrow from the future without acknowledging the cost. We treat tomorrow like it owes us something.

Recovery asks us to slowly rebuild our relationship with money. To pause before spending. To notice when urgency takes over. To ask whether a purchase is aligned with who we’re trying to become, not just what we want in the moment.

Respecting our finances isn’t just about restriction. It’s not about punishment or deprivation, or telling ourselves we can’t enjoy the things we love. It’s about reclaiming control.

It’s choosing intention over momentum. It’s deciding when to engage and when to step back. It’s understanding that every dollar carries impact, not just on our bank account, but on our sense of stability and self-trust. And when money carries real weight again, other priorities begin to as well.The future we’re trying to protect. The boundaries we’re learning to hold. The life we’re actively rebuilding, one deliberate choice at a time.

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