Published October 31, 2025 | By Dayae Kim, LMFT, Collectors MD Referral Network

What Is Impulsivity?
WebMD describes impulsivity as a tendency to act without foresight or much thought. Impulsivity is something all of us have experienced at some point.

When I’ve felt burnout from work, I’ve noticed myself engaging in more impulsive behaviors. For me, it often shows up as careless spending or shopping. The cycle usually looks like this: I feel overwhelmed and frustrated from burnout, I go shopping and buy things I don’t need on a whim, and then later, I look at my bank statement and feel anxious and guilty about how much I’ve spent. That guilt and anxiety lead to more stress, and I start the cycle all over again.

Has this happened to you? Maybe it’s not impulsive shopping, but have you ever noticed yourself engaging in any of these behaviors when stressed or anxious?

• Angry outbursts

• Speaking before thinking

• Unsafe or risky actions

• Overspending

• Gambling

When we’re anxious or stressed, impulsive actions can feel like a quick fix. We might think, “If I just buy this, eat this, or say this, I’ll feel better”. And for a brief moment, it might even seem to work. But shortly after, we’re often left feeling worse because we haven’t actually addressed the root cause of what’s happening underneath.

How Impulsivity Can Be A Symptom, Not The Problem
I’ve been working with a client who has struggled with impulsive gambling. When life and work stressors pile up, he turns to gambling to escape. The temporary rush of excitement numbs the stress, but after acting impulsively, he ends up losing money and feeling even more anxious and defeated.

In our sessions, we’ve worked together to identify his triggers and what his impulsive behaviors look like in real time. More importantly, we’ve practiced delaying his impulsive desires through what I call “thought-breaking activities”. For him, that includes taking a cold shower, going for a run or walk, or turning on his favorite music—loud enough to shift his mood and energy.

These activities don’t erase the stress, but they help him slow down long enough to choose a healthier response instead of reacting irrationally. Over time, he’s learned that managing his impulsivity isn’t about willpower—it’s about awareness, delay, and replacement with something more grounding and appropriate.

Where Collecting Fits In
For many in our community, impulsivity shows up in collecting—especially during moments of stress. A new product drops, a live break starts buzzing, or a rare card appears at a “can’t miss” price, and suddenly the urge feels urgent and justified. The purchase or rip offers a brief lift, but the aftermath—budget strain, shame, or hiding transactions—reinforces the same stress that triggered the behavior. If this sounds familiar, try applying the same thought-breaking approach before you buy: step away for ten minutes, review your budget or want-list, text a trusted friend, or play a song that reliably changes your state. These small pauses create just enough space to return to intentional collecting—choices aligned with your values, limits, and longer-term goals.

Moving Toward Mindful Choices
Impulsivity often gives us the illusion of control—a quick fix to escape discomfort or stress. But these reactions rarely soothe what’s truly underneath. When we learn to pause and observe what’s driving the impulse, we open the door to real change.

Noticing the urge is the first step; choosing differently is the second. Even taking 10 seconds to breathe, walk away, or check in with yourself can interrupt an impulsive cycle and shift your emotional state. With time and support, those pauses add up to more mindful, intentional choices—ones that align with who you actually want to be.

Ready To Break The Cycle?
If you’ve noticed impulsive behaviors showing up when you’re stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, you’re not alone. These behaviors aren’t signs of weakness—they’re signals that something deeper needs your attention and care.

If you or someone you know struggles with impulsivity or the anxiety that often fuels it, I can help. Together, we can:

• Identify triggers and emotional patterns

• Strengthen emotional regulation

• Build healthier coping tools that support real, lasting change

If you are ready to break the cycle and create a calmer, more intentional way of responding to life’s stressors, you’re always welcome to schedule a consultation with me.

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Published August 17, 2025 | By Alyx E, Founder of Collectors MD

So often, the purchases we regret the most aren’t the ones we planned for—they’re the ones we made in the heat of an emotion. A fight with a partner. A stressful day at work. A painful memory resurfacing. Even something as simple as boredom or loneliness.

These are the moments when our defenses are down and the urge to “fix” the feeling with a quick hit of excitement, distraction, or escape becomes strongest—without considering the fallout that might follow once the moment passes.

For many collectors, these emotional triggers precede a slippery slope—one unplanned purchase turns into a spiral of spending, chasing, or gambling-like behaviors. What feels like “just one box” or “just one auction” can quickly become a pattern, repeated every time that same emotion resurfaces. And those moments can start to add up quickly.

When emotional triggers pile up, it can feel dizzying—leaving us vulnerable to impulse decisions we later regret.

The first step in breaking free from these triggers is awareness. Overspending often mirrors the same insidious cycles we see with drinking, drugs, and gambling—each fueled by emotions we haven’t fully faced. When we start to recognize the specific emotions that lead us toward destructive habits, we can begin to reclaim control.

Maybe it’s anger, sadness, anxiety, or even the temporary high of celebration. Whatever the emotion, it’s worth asking: Am I buying because I want this piece, or because I want to avoid or suppress what I’m feeling?

Patterns don’t change overnight, but they can be tracked, named, and eventually interrupted. By pausing to recognize the trigger, you give yourself the space to make a different choice—one rooted in intention instead of impulse.

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