Published January 17, 2026 | By Alyx E, Founder of Collectors MD

Active addiction rarely stays in the lane we try to keep it in. It doesn’t just live in the apps, the bets, the breaks, or the packs. It has a way of following us home. It sits at the dinner table. It shows up in our tone, our patience, our energy, and our availability to the people we love most.

One of the most painful parts of compulsive behavior isn’t the financial damage or even the losses, it’s the distance it creates between us and the people we care about. It’s the half-listening. The short fuse. The preoccupation. The subtle feeling that even when we’re physically present, we’re not really there.

Urges and triggers have a way of shrinking our world down to a single thought: I need relief right now. And when that happens, everything else – connection, honesty, empathy, and presence – starts to feel secondary. Over time, this can leave our loved ones feeling confused, unimportant, or even replaced by the thing we keep turning back to.

The challenge isn’t just managing the urge itself. It’s recognizing how that moment of disconnection can ripple outward, shaping the emotional climate of our relationships and the trust and stability they were founded upon.

In marriages and relationships, the impact is subtle at first. Missed conversations. Irritability. Emotional withdrawal. Financial tension. Then eventually, erosion of trust. Not because of one big moment, but because of many small ones that slowly add up over time.

For many of us, the shame that comes after acting on an urge makes it even harder to show up. Instead of leaning into support, we isolate. We hide. We try to “fix it ourselves”, which only deepens the disconnect. The result is that the people who want to be closest to us are often the ones who feel the furthest away.

Recovery isn’t just about stopping the behavior, it’s about restoring the relationships with the people in our lives. That means learning to pause when the urge hits. To communicate honestly. To repair where harm has been done. And to let our partners see that the work we’re doing isn’t performative, it’s real, consistent, and rooted in change.

At the end of the day, this isn’t just about collecting, gambling, or spending.
It’s about how we show up for the people we love, and making sure we’re choosing connection over compulsion.

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Published September 07, 2025 | By Meryll E, Collectors MD Supporter

From the moment my son was little, I knew he was special. I can still picture him standing at his easel when he was three years old, looking up at me with such determination and saying, “I’m working!” Even then, I could tell he would pour his whole heart into whatever he loved.

As he grew, he was smart, outgoing, and confident. He loved sports and carried himself with pride. He strived to succeed, to stand out, and to be the best at whatever he put his mind to. He went on to build a career and a life for himself, but what many people didn’t see was the private struggle he carried with him.

My son’s love for collecting started in childhood. I remember buying him Power Rangers, Beanie Babies, and Pokémon cards just to see his face light up. Later, it was about video games, sneakers, and eventually sports cards and memorabilia. But somewhere along the way, what began as a hobby filled with excitement and joy shifted into something more dangerous. The thrill of collecting slowly became a compulsion. The joy of discovery gave way to the chase, and collecting became an addiction—one that carried emotional and financial weight eerily similar to gambling.

A mother’s love might not be able to fix the struggle, but it can light the way through it.

The Turning Point

Watching him struggle was heartbreaking. I saw my confident, capable son lose himself to something so many people don’t understand. But I also saw resilience. I recognized the same spark from that little boy at the easel—only now, it was a spark to fight back and rebuild.

Over time, he found a way to turn his pain into purpose. By speaking openly about his journey, by connecting with others who shared the same struggles, and by focusing on recovery, he began to heal. And through that healing, he has been able to help others start their own paths towards redemption.

A New Identity

Today, my son is not defined by addiction. He is defined by his courage to face it—and by his determination to help others do the same. What once was the darkest chapter of his life has become a platform for awareness, education, and recovery.

A Mother’s Message

If you love someone who is struggling with compulsive collecting—or any addiction—know that your love and belief can be a lifeline. You may not be able to fix the problems for them, but you can stand beside them as they find their way forward.

To anyone battling this struggle: you are not alone. There is a way out. There are people who will understand, and who will walk alongside you.

Closing Reflection

Love isn’t just a feeling—it’s an action. It’s noticing when something is wrong, speaking up, and holding onto hope even in the darkest times. That love carried my son forward—and it can carry you, too.

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Love is the strongest support we can offer—when collecting turns into compulsion, love can be the lifeline that brings us back to light.

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This is what Collectors MD is all about: connection, intention, and community. We see you, Travis—and we’re rooting for you. Sending strength and healing your way 💪💛

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